Stop following then unfollowing me on social media

This is a shallow topic, I’m aware. But I’ve become so annoyed by this “business” and the people who try to rope me in. Many are aware of those who follow hundreds of accounts, wait for those accounts to follow them back and then immediately unfollow them. Of course this is done to increase their ratio of their followers to those they follow. I understand it makes a page look more “liked” and “popular” to have 6,457 followers and only follow 224. You look like you’re influential, but you’re actually annoying.

I hate promoting myself. Sometimes I will update this blog and not mention it anywhere because I don’t want to shove it in anyone’s face. I am not trying to make a living off of this blog or pretend I have anything new or interesting to offer. I am just wearing what I like and learning about photography in the process. It’s a hobby.

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But I understand that this isn’t a hobby for everyone. Bigger bloggers make a generous living off of their style and it’s an attractive option for women who want to share their wardrobe. It has even opened doors for aspiring models, photographers and graphic designers. Blogging may be a saturated medium, but it’s pleasantly fun and a simple way to make a portfolio.

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But what truly pisses me off and has turned me into a friendorfollow.com user are the selfish vain people who try to build themselves up by stepping on the toes of others. Those who put their Instagram or Twitter on a pedestal and try to give the illusion that they are creative and attractive enough to deserve a large following.

What is valuable about this? My Instagram has just over 1200 followers, but that number is constantly shifting and only a handful of genuine people “like” and comment on my content. This niche is important to me, and I find interaction and feedback to be more useful and engaging. But yet bloggers use this number to fuel their worth, and companies see it as an opportunity to promote their product. I’m sorry, but those 10k followers probably don’t give a shit about what “Lipstick and Croissants” is selling.

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I need to stop blabbering about this because it’s ridiculous, but it’s also almost as insulting as companies who ask me to create content for them in exchange for possible “exposure.” Sit the fuck down.

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Top: Zara (similar)
Tank: American Eagle (similar)
Jacket: American Eagle (distressed version)
Jeans: Forever 21
Boots: Sam & Libby for Target
Necklace: Gift
Earrings: Primark

Now that I have overloaded you with images of my outfit and complained about social media hags, can I just talk about how much I love layering this crochet tank under tops? I would never wear it on its own because it’s hella sheer, but ugh, it’s my favorite addition to a blouse or sweater.

Just to be clear, I stand on no moral high ground. I mean, obviously. I stood around a window for a blog post and whined about Instagram, how could this possibly be taken seriously. These are my little thoughts about a “problem” that is unbelievably insignificant. I just needed to rant. 

  • Lydia Sifuentez Moreno

    Rant away. I love that top.

  • Girl I want to take a flight to Germany just to high five you! I hate when people follow and then unfollow me. Like just don’t waste your time ’cause I’m just going to return the favor with Crowdfire. Love that top combination.

    • Seriously, they really are wasting their time. There are so many apps and websites that help clean up followers now, so I don’t see why they try and get away with this. And thanks!

  • I feel this so much. My IG followers have been jumping around so much lately because of these people. I’ll gain like 10 followers and then the next day 8 of them have unfollowed me bc I didn’t follow them back. I just want to gain a genuine following! Why is that so hard! Lol. I really hate the people who do that.

    • Right, that is a regular thing now. Sometimes I don’t even bother following back a blogger when they have over 10,000 followers but follow less than 150, because I’m sure they are just going to unfollow me in return. I refuse to fall into that trap again.

  • Michelle

    Preach! This is a completely ridiculous practice and I hate this whole follow for follow business. I’ll follow you if I like your page and you do the same! It’s figurative social media prostititon.

    • Leah

      Ah, “figurative social media prostitution.” I like that a lot. That sums it up quite well. I could never do something so blatantly transparent and I’m glad others are seeing how nasty it is.